Coaching2Grow – Performance, Results, and Satisfaction
You’re no longer willing to accept overwhelm and stress as your default mode.
You’re committed to getting out of your own way, and willing to try something new to deal with your self-doubt.
You’re done forcing yourself to think positively, and ready to take an honest look at what’s keeping you stuck.
Before we dive in…
This is where my most successful clients started their journeys, so I’m glad we’ve stumbled into each other’s path. This guide will give you an actionable strategy to pull yourself out of negative thinking spirals in as little as five minutes. I’ll be honest: This strategy won’t stop your inner critic from ever emerging again. But it will unearth a new understanding of your challenges, and allow you to start addressing their root cause. Ready? You’ve got this!
We are all slow to learn that we are are more capable than we think we are.
Cassie sat down at her desk, dropping the papers she was holding. She had just finished her weekly one-on-one with her manager, Greg. Out of the corner of her eye, Cassie studied Greg through the glass windows of his office. His eyebrows furrowed as he picked up the presentation Cassie had shared with him a few minutes before. Observing him, Cassie’s inner dialogue took over… “He definitely didn’t like my suggestion to redo the reporting structure.” “I could sense his hesitation while we were speaking, and now look at his reaction!” “I rambled the entire time. He was probably thinking, just get to the point already!”
Trust me, you’re not alone. As humans, we naturally have more negative, unhelpful thoughts than positive ones. It’s a tendency designed to shield you from danger, your brain’s way of keeping you safe and protected. Over time however, those negative thinking patterns become deeply ingrained, causing unhelpful thoughts to become almost automatic.
“He definitely didn’t like Jumping to conclusions my suggestion to redo the reporting structure.”
“I rambled the entire time. He was probably thinking, “just get to the point already!”
TYPE OF DISTORTION
Jumping to conclusions.
In psychology, these self-critical, repetitive patterns of thinking are called cognitive distortions. You’ll find a complete list of different types of cognitive distortions on page 9. But so you understand them, let me walk through one right now…